So how does one write a sex scene? You basically have to think out each step, and throw in some romantic or tantalizing words to get your reader's attention. Sure. Easier said than done. You also have to keep the reader in mind and how they perceive things, even if that perception is not very realistic.
Take an anal sex scene. My editor made me rewrite mine several times, because in his words, I made it too simple. Um, Ric, if you're reading this, it IS that simple. LOL. It has always driven me crazy how painful writers make an anal sex scene.
But that's the point. You have to give your readers what they want. Hmmm. Reminds me of a Kinks song...but I digress.
Bottom line is, writing is not easy, and writing a steamy sex scene is even tougher. I'm hoping I get better with time and practice. Until then, I'm hoping my plot will push my readers forward. Pun intended.