How do you know? Your first clue is when they start sending you dick pics. I'm not kidding. I can't tell you how many of these I have received. It always reminds me of an episode of Samantha Bee, where the camera zooms in on her face, and she informs men their penises are ugly. It is hysterical! If you're interested, the link is: https://variety.com/2017/tv/news/samantha-bee-penis-psa-full-frontal-harvey-weinstein-1202587930/
Now a more subtle perv will DM you and say you're beautiful, or they'll ask how your day is going. Some are even ballsy enough to attempt a video chat through Facebook. When this happens, I unfriend them immediately. I mean, who has time for that nonsense?
And yet, part of me gets it. I write erotica. While I wouldn't call my sex scenes hardcore, they are certainly explicit and not what most would consider mainstream. This could attract, shall we say, an edgier element than your average romance reader. But that doesn't mean I'm open to advances from strange men on the internet! I am happily married to an overly-protective and overly-possessive man, and these perv contacts drive him up a wall.
So what's a savvy writer to do? I still usually accept all followers and then see if I need to unfriend them down the road. A colleague recently told me 17% of romance readers are men. Why block the legitimate ones? Which brings me to my question. For all writers out there, is this a problem for you as well? If so, how do you handle it? Do you find it funny, annoying, or part of the job?