How did you get started in the scene?
My boyfriend is a Dom. I didn't know it when I started dating him. We met at a party and hit if off right away. After a few dates I decided to sleep with him. He asked if I wanted to try some kinky stuff, and that progressed into a full blown D/s relationship.
What's your relationship like?
We have been together three years and have been living together for two. I have rules I have to follow but mostly can do what I want. I also have chores, and the weekends get a lot more intense with what he wants me to do, etc.
What's the best part of being a sub?
The sex. Definitely the sex.
What's the toughest part of being a sub?
Keeping it a secret from my family and some of my friends. Sub drop can also be tough.
How do you cope with the pain?
I'm really good at deep breathing and going into what I call "the zone." My Dom takes good care of me afterward as well.
Why do you submit?
To me it just comes natural. I like someone else taking control and making the decisions for me. I also like feeling well cared for. Plus, it's exciting. Oh, and I like/need to be held accountable on stuff.
Would you go mainstream?
Yes. I've had regular relationships before and am okay with them. I'm pretty flexible.
Would you consider marriage and/or kids in a D/s relationship?
I would consider marriage but probably not kids. I mean, you would have to hide it, because how on earth could you explain it to a child?
Would you recommend a D/s relationship to your friends?
A lot of my friends are already in the scene. We tend to hang out together. I would likely recommend it to a newbie if I thought they would be with a safe Dom who knew what they were doing. It's certainly not for everyone, though.