My first reaction was to feel bad for the girl. Lord knows it’s tough enough being single without adding BDSM into the mix! Then I wondered…as an erotic romance writer, was I contributing to the problem? Certainly my character, Abby, in Paging Dr. Turov is about as submissive as you can get. But do fiction books really set the tone for expectations in life?
I think not. Fiction books are meant to entertain, but they do not dictate how you should live. Of course, some fiction genres offer a glimpse into a whole new world of possibilities. I believe erotica is one such genre. But having said that, what you do with that knowledge is entirely up to you.
Getting back to the single girl, I personally think she should consider herself lucky. These guys are being up front and honest with her. How refreshing! Not only that, but she has the internet at her disposal to “spy” on any potential date. Back when I was single, we didn’t have that luxury. We just had to wing it and hope for the best. And frankly, if you were into the whole kinky scene, it was tough finding like-minded people. Now they are a mere click away.